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krishsanthoh · Newbie

Marriage broken, can't cope with stress

Spicer · Newbie

K-Slagle wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Hi there!
Writing anonymously as exposing myself even virtually is a tough thing for me right now. I have been working as an elementary teacher for 12 years and about 2 years ago I have started a therapy as all the schoolwork, PTA's, contests became absolutely unbearable for me and I used to be irritable even because of smallest stress. My husband wasn't supportive to tell the truth and when I decided to schedule my first meeting I heard nothing but critisizm that I am helpless and if I can't even manage my own emotions, how can I help children.
Well my story is not about blaming my STBX, I am interested in moving on, travelling and development and I realize that he is not the person it's possible to achieve with.
I consider a divorce, however I don't know where to start or how to manage the future consequenses. I mean, I can't afford a divorce lawyer, as in our area it's a way higher than my wages. I wanted to attend court to find a cheap divorce aid, however due to lockdown this process is rather harder than I expected. I tend to a diy divorce and any help with filling out divorce forms would come in hand.
I could advice you to look for a legal aid in your area, no matter how hard it would be in case you know your husband would disagree with divorce. If you are sure that there would be no arguments about divorce circumstances I know that court's do not require a divorce attorney to represent your interests in case husband and wife agree upon divorce. You haven't mentioned whether there are minor children involved, if no - there is no point to get worried, you may be even won't be required to be present at final hearing. My friends got divorced in California and they were not forced to appear in front of judge, as far as I know they just came to court and got the papers that their marriage is dissolved. As for your divorce forms, I know that there are services like https://onlinedivorcer.com/online-divorce-california that assist with filing out and they might work for you. Anyway, stay strong and follow your dreams. I believe that every person deserves to live in the family where they are treated in a proper way.
I absolutely agree with you with the fact that it is really important to have a family where you are supported and supportive at the same time.And it's better to be divorced and free with a chance to be happy, than married and never get to know what it means to be loved.

K-Slagle · Newbie

Anonymous wrote:
Hi there!
Writing anonymously as exposing myself even virtually is a tough thing for me right now. I have been working as an elementary teacher for 12 years and about 2 years ago I have started a therapy as all the schoolwork, PTA's, contests became absolutely unbearable for me and I used to be irritable even because of smallest stress. My husband wasn't supportive to tell the truth and when I decided to schedule my first meeting I heard nothing but critisizm that I am helpless and if I can't even manage my own emotions, how can I help children.
Well my story is not about blaming my STBX, I am interested in moving on, travelling and development and I realize that he is not the person it's possible to achieve with.
I consider a divorce, however I don't know where to start or how to manage the future consequenses. I mean, I can't afford a divorce lawyer, as in our area it's a way higher than my wages. I wanted to attend court to find a cheap divorce aid, however due to lockdown this process is rather harder than I expected. I tend to a diy divorce and any help with filling out divorce forms would come in hand.

I could advice you to look for a legal aid in your area, no matter how hard it would be in case you know your husband would disagree with divorce. If you are sure that there would be no arguments about divorce circumstances I know that court's do not require a divorce attorney to represent your interests in case husband and wife agree upon divorce. You haven't mentioned whether there are minor children involved, if no - there is no point to get worried, you may be even won't be required to be present at final hearing. My friends got divorced in California and they were not forced to appear in front of judge, as far as I know they just came to court and got the papers that their marriage is dissolved. As for your divorce forms, I know that there are services like https://onlinedivorcer.com/online-divorce-california that assist with filing out and they might work for you. Anyway, stay strong and follow your dreams. I believe that every person deserves to live in the family where they are treated in a proper way.

Spicer · Newbie

I could say only go girl! You definitely deserve to move on and make your dreams come true. Divorce could be tough, but it would be finalized, sooner or later. Remember that!

Date: Sep 29, 2020

Hi there!
Writing anonymously as exposing myself even virtually is a tough thing for me right now. I have been working as an elementary teacher for 12 years and about 2 years ago I have started a therapy as all the schoolwork, PTA's, contests became absolutely unbearable for me and I used to be irritable even because of smallest stress. My husband wasn't supportive to tell the truth and when I decided to schedule my first meeting I heard nothing but critisizm that I am helpless and if I can't even manage my own emotions, how can I help children.

Well my story is not about blaming my STBX, I am interested in moving on, travelling and development and I realize that he is not the person it's possible to achieve with.
I consider a divorce, however I don't know where to start or how to manage the future consequenses. I mean, I can't afford a divorce lawyer, as in our area it's a way higher than my wages. I wanted to attend court to find a cheap divorce aid, however due to lockdown this process is rather harder than I expected. I tend to a diy divorce and any help with filling out divorce forms would come in hand.