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Dating in the 2020s: trying to find yourself and each other

Hello everyone!

I decided to raise a topic that only the lazy don’t talk about now — online dating. Someone is shaking their head: why meet people online if there is real life. And someone, on the contrary, considers this the most convenient way to find a loved one. I am somewhere in the middle — with experience, with mistakes and with conclusions. And, by the way, when it comes to responsibility and maturity in relationships, it is important to understand both biological and emotional aspects — for example, this article https://www.sofiadate.com/dating-tips/age-boy-can-get-girl-pregnant about age and reproductive maturity covers a topic that is often forgotten in conversations about young relationships.

I’ll start with the obvious: dating is not just “download an app and find love.” No, it's a quest with elements of psychology, light drama and sometimes comedy.

You register, think for a long time about the profile description: how to describe yourself honestly, but not boringly? How to choose a photo where you look good, but not overacting? Then swiping begins - you scroll through profiles like a catalog of people, which in itself is a little strange, but you get used to it.

Correspondence is the next step. And this is where it gets especially interesting. Someone writes right away: "Hi, let's go on a date." Someone asks what you want from life. Someone is just silent. Sometimes a warm dialogue begins, and you think: "This is it!" And then - silence. The person simply disappears. Or it suddenly turns out that he is married, or it is even a bot. It happens.

But! Among all this chaotic mass, there are real people. Yes, sometimes tired, sometimes with baggage. But - real. And you can chat with them, joke, discuss your favorite TV series, worries, dreams. Sometimes such correspondence develops into coffee in person. Sometimes - into a relationship. Once it happened to me that after a week of communication we met and spent the whole day together - easily, freely, as if we had known each other for a long time. This feeling is rare, but it is worth trying for it.

I understand why dating is scary: it seems to force us to put ourselves on display. But it also teaches: talk about yourself, understand your boundaries, listen to others, filter out “not yours” people. Sometimes it heals self-esteem, and sometimes it hits it. But experience is always experience.

So I am neither for nor against - I am for awareness. Want to try dating? Try it. If you don’t like it, don’t force yourself. The main thing is honesty: with yourself and with those you write to. Then both the process and the result can surprise you.

What do you think about online dating? Any success (or failure) stories? Share them — I wonder how everyone is going through this digital path to intimacy.